This is me.

This is me.

This is me.

Okay, maybe not. I do daydream about such things, though. You know, domestic housewife who bakes everything from scratch, sews beautiful clothes for her children, saves lots of money, has happy, obedient children, oversees an immaculate home, and still looks magnificent at the end of the day. Reality is slightly different.

This is really me…on a good day.

I can dream, though, and some days I can actually accomplish one of these things. I try not to put too much pressure on myself. I read about the “Proverbs 31 woman” and feel like I have somehow missed the mark. Lately I have seen the Proverbs 31 woman in a new perspective. I was reading a book called “Army Social Customs.” Written in 1958, the book lays out the roll and responsibilities of the Army wife, from who to call on when arriving at a new duty station to how your children should behave at the base pool. I love history and this book has entertained me. It does contain some good information like how to recognize a soldier’s rank and traditions of the Army that are helpful to know. But reading through the whole thing I began to understand why they had to write a book on the subject. Trying to remember how many calling cards to leave where and what the difference was between a coffee and brunch. They even laid out what the appropriate attire was for such things. I would have failed miserably. I did not see jeans and tennis shoes on the list of appropriate attire for anything including a trip to the commissary.

Don’t get me wrong, one of the things I love about the military life is the area of traditions and standard. I like to know expectations and I love the pride soldiers and their families find in the country and Army they serve. I am all about sticking together and representing well, but the idea of fixing my hair and wearing make-up and a dress every day is slightly overwhelming. I am found far more often in sweats with what we call at our house “chalk bottom.” That is right, more than once I have sat right down in the sidewalk chalk art on the driveway.

Thankfully, though, my husband sees me more like this.

And for that I am truly thankful, because being married to him makes me feel like this.

I have come to the determination that I will never be the “perfect housewife.” And I am okay with that because Jesus sees me as His bride and my husband considers me his rockstar. What more could I want?


  1. I think an important lesson we learned from the culture of the 50’s (and I would argue, the 80’s as well): looking like you have it all together doesn’t mean that actually you have it all! I believe the perfect wife starts exactly where you are — an honest, supportive relationship based on respect and care, who work and play together. Which may be why your husband sees you as a rockstar! (And who could argue?) Way to go, SuperGirl!

    • Kori Yates says:

      Jenn –

      I would agree. Looking from the outside it always seems everyone else has it more together than I do. Somehow I like visiting another lady’s house that she just didn’t get around to cleaning…makes me feel very at home! I also love the comment about working and playing together – could not agree more. I would bet John is a pretty big fan of yours as well!

  2. Todd’s mom talks about the customs and ways of the army when she was an army wife. It is so very different from today in both good and bad ways. Seeing the pictures of them at army officer functions is fascinating. It would be interesting to see how that has evolved over time. Have you ever considered having other army wives post pictures of their experiences creating a pictorial history?
    It is awesome that you are a superwoman and a princess at the same time! Going to order my book…

    • Kori Yates says:

      Joann –

      I LOVE the idea of a pictoral history and even possibly a comparison of sorts to see what is the same and what is different over the years. It would also be intriguing to do some profiles of military wives and what they were before. So many of them have degrees or experience in many things and have used it little while being a military spouse. I have met very few who would go back, though. It is always better to be exactly where God wants you. I would love to see the old pictures…great idea!

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